How do we ever know if someone is telling the truth?
There is so much dishonesty in the world today. Whether it is within our personal or professional relationships, dishonesty exists. Why do people feel compelled to lie or not say anything at all? I know people would rather take the easy road out and blame others for their misgivings. When I go to work I have a difficult time reading others to see if they are being honest with me or not. I put 100% effort into my daily work, and feel satisfied when I leave that I did a good job. Part of the issue comes into play when others have different expectations that they place on us. I have found that the simplest way to deal with this is to ask yourself...Am I honest? Did I do my best? Do I have realistic expectations set out for myself?
If we all asked ourselves this we would live in a less stressful world, with less judgement and the opportunity to be truthful with ourselves and others.
Friday, October 8, 2010
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
If I didn't do it, someone else would
I started something new today. I was full of apprehension but soon realized that I am lacking the confidence in myself to step up to the plate and try something different. I found my confidence in realizing that I have over a decade of experience and can handle almost anything that could get thrown my way.
Fear of the unknown is something that we all are faced with. Sometimes its those who you think have it all together and you realize that they don't quite have it together to help you see that you are not alone. Someone reminded me of this on the weekend and I thank them.
It is way easier to stay where you are and continue to do the same thing year after year. For now I will take the road less travelled and continue to challenge myself to try new things, explore places I haven't been before and meet some new people along the way!
I haven't blogged in a long time since I have recently survived a tragedy within my personal life. To those of you who have read or posted comments here I thank you. Pass it along. It might help someone else out who needs it.
Fear of the unknown is something that we all are faced with. Sometimes its those who you think have it all together and you realize that they don't quite have it together to help you see that you are not alone. Someone reminded me of this on the weekend and I thank them.
It is way easier to stay where you are and continue to do the same thing year after year. For now I will take the road less travelled and continue to challenge myself to try new things, explore places I haven't been before and meet some new people along the way!
I haven't blogged in a long time since I have recently survived a tragedy within my personal life. To those of you who have read or posted comments here I thank you. Pass it along. It might help someone else out who needs it.
Monday, October 26, 2009
Turning over a new Leaf!
It is unbelievable how things can change your life. I had a near death experience and although it was scary it was only the beginning of the changes that were to come.
Someone I love dearly is not well. It was a huge wake up call for me to make some major life changes in order to accomodate their needs.
I have learned that living in what is happening right now is all there really is. As soon as you project into the future you create problems that don't exist yet. When you then reach that moment in time, you have set the scene for the problem to exist.
Others, are generally living in their own world, projecting negativity onto others to cover up for the fact that they are not happy with their own life or current circumstances.
Why do we torture ourselves and others around us? Does making someone else's life more difficult really make yourself feel better?
If we live in the moment and focus on what's infront of us then we can do no wrong. Our minds are not cluttered with what already happened and what is possibly going to happen. Focus on RIGHT NOW!!
Someone I love dearly is not well. It was a huge wake up call for me to make some major life changes in order to accomodate their needs.
I have learned that living in what is happening right now is all there really is. As soon as you project into the future you create problems that don't exist yet. When you then reach that moment in time, you have set the scene for the problem to exist.
Others, are generally living in their own world, projecting negativity onto others to cover up for the fact that they are not happy with their own life or current circumstances.
Why do we torture ourselves and others around us? Does making someone else's life more difficult really make yourself feel better?
If we live in the moment and focus on what's infront of us then we can do no wrong. Our minds are not cluttered with what already happened and what is possibly going to happen. Focus on RIGHT NOW!!
Monday, June 22, 2009
A Small Rant
Ok, so here is the most recent rant for my life.
Saturday it was pouring rain all day so we decided to head out to the stores to use up some time. I was looking at the tv shows on DVD. I was looking for The Gilmore Girls Season 2. We walk into Best Buy and it's &35.99. I was thinking to myself maybe I can find it for less somewhere else.
Today I head out to 2 or 3 differnt stores to comparison shop. It's less at Walmart but they don't have any in stock. I head back to Best Buy because I figure the price difference is not too much and I know they have it in stock.
I go into the store as they are opening this morning and the exact same season 2 dvd set is now &54.99!!!!!!! ARE YOU KIDDING ME????
The price was jacked up 20 dollars in less than 48 hours!!! Completely ridiculous!!!!
I will not give my business to them anymore because of these antics that take advantage of shoppers!
Saturday it was pouring rain all day so we decided to head out to the stores to use up some time. I was looking at the tv shows on DVD. I was looking for The Gilmore Girls Season 2. We walk into Best Buy and it's &35.99. I was thinking to myself maybe I can find it for less somewhere else.
Today I head out to 2 or 3 differnt stores to comparison shop. It's less at Walmart but they don't have any in stock. I head back to Best Buy because I figure the price difference is not too much and I know they have it in stock.
I go into the store as they are opening this morning and the exact same season 2 dvd set is now &54.99!!!!!!! ARE YOU KIDDING ME????
The price was jacked up 20 dollars in less than 48 hours!!! Completely ridiculous!!!!
I will not give my business to them anymore because of these antics that take advantage of shoppers!
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
New Jobs
I can't believe the expectations that others place on someone in a new job. I started a new job recently and was expected to know the whole routine, what to do and jump in with both feet right out of the gate. Luckily I have some experience that it wasn't too daunting however when you are somewhere new you have no idea what to expect and how to do what needs to be done. It also doesn't help to be told that you are late when you clearly were not.
People can only go in and do the best they can with what they have. To put more expectations on anyone is ridiculous. It is a learning lesson for everyone out there. If you are in charge, give someone the benefit of the doubt and show them around a bit. Don't expect them to jump in right away and don't give them the most difficult situation on their first day. Talk about setting someone up for failure. As for the employee, do your best and that's all you can do. Remember, it's not your problem, it's theirs!!!!
People can only go in and do the best they can with what they have. To put more expectations on anyone is ridiculous. It is a learning lesson for everyone out there. If you are in charge, give someone the benefit of the doubt and show them around a bit. Don't expect them to jump in right away and don't give them the most difficult situation on their first day. Talk about setting someone up for failure. As for the employee, do your best and that's all you can do. Remember, it's not your problem, it's theirs!!!!
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
Fear
Many of us struggle with fears. Whether they be big or small, important or insignificant. Some fear things. My youngest son is deathly afraid of spider webs. Give him a spider to play with and he's good. But put a web near him and he is frozen, petrified.
My biggest fears are of the unknown, what other's think of me and being accepted. Some may say that these are petty things and I should just get over it.
Take the unknown. It's been my experience that when I'm faced with something unknown it's a million times worse to me in my hear before it happens then when it's over and I realize that it really wasn't a big deal.
As for what other's think of me, this only bothers me on a professional level. My youngest son is disabled and I can't take him anywhere without someone staring or offering me advice that isn't needed or wanted. That doesn't bother me because really it's their problem not mine. I know why he reacts the way he does and it's not anyone's business as to why he does anything. On a professional level I pride myself on doing a good job and I have letters of reference and many people who stand behind my work. However anytime I have to start somewhere new and these people don't know me it becomes a 'I'm a great person and I'll prove it to you' all over again. I really should embrace this as a challenge rather than a hinderance.
As for being accepted I have this insecurity because we often don't tell others how much we like them or how much we value having them in our lives. If we all had time to reflect we would see what is really important and who is important. Maybe then we would feel more accepted.
The bottom line is BE YOURSELF and don't take the baggage of others, personally!!!
Fear can be embraced if we chose to see it as an ally instead of a foe!
My biggest fears are of the unknown, what other's think of me and being accepted. Some may say that these are petty things and I should just get over it.
Take the unknown. It's been my experience that when I'm faced with something unknown it's a million times worse to me in my hear before it happens then when it's over and I realize that it really wasn't a big deal.
As for what other's think of me, this only bothers me on a professional level. My youngest son is disabled and I can't take him anywhere without someone staring or offering me advice that isn't needed or wanted. That doesn't bother me because really it's their problem not mine. I know why he reacts the way he does and it's not anyone's business as to why he does anything. On a professional level I pride myself on doing a good job and I have letters of reference and many people who stand behind my work. However anytime I have to start somewhere new and these people don't know me it becomes a 'I'm a great person and I'll prove it to you' all over again. I really should embrace this as a challenge rather than a hinderance.
As for being accepted I have this insecurity because we often don't tell others how much we like them or how much we value having them in our lives. If we all had time to reflect we would see what is really important and who is important. Maybe then we would feel more accepted.
The bottom line is BE YOURSELF and don't take the baggage of others, personally!!!
Fear can be embraced if we chose to see it as an ally instead of a foe!
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
Basketballs
So...every morning I walk my kids up to the corner to catch the school bus. This morning my son is playing with another boy and they are tossing the basketball back and forth on the sidewalk. Sitting at the curb is a town bus waiting to pick up a group of high school kids. The bus leaves the corner and somehow the basketball goes under the bus.
I turn to the kid and say don't worry it will come out on the other side. WRONG! the ball get wedged under the bus and it bursts!! The sound from the explosion sounded like a gun going off.
The bus turns the corner and stops. the little boy goes up to the driver and tells him that is was his ball and not the tire that blew. The little boy comes back to the corner crying over his broken ball.
I never knew that a ball could burst like that. Luckily no one got hurt.
I turn to the kid and say don't worry it will come out on the other side. WRONG! the ball get wedged under the bus and it bursts!! The sound from the explosion sounded like a gun going off.
The bus turns the corner and stops. the little boy goes up to the driver and tells him that is was his ball and not the tire that blew. The little boy comes back to the corner crying over his broken ball.
I never knew that a ball could burst like that. Luckily no one got hurt.
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